1) If you ever have to convince someone to love you…(that is a fairly simple one to finish, no?)
2) You really have to love yourself first and foremost. It sounds so cliche, but it is utterly true.
3) In regards to lesson #2, if you can’t love yourself, you tolerate things that you shouldn’t. You tolerate the constant put downs, criticism. You forget that you do not deserve that kind of treatment, because eventually it becomes normal, and that you must endure the pain in order to feel loved. But really, you are beautiful just the way you are. One of my favorite quotes is from The Perks of Being a Wallflower:
"We accept the love we think we deserve"
So if you love yourself unconditionally, you will accept no less from anyone else.
4) Pain is immeasurable, indescribable, incredible. It has the ability to make us feel as though someone is stabbing you with a million daggers, yet at the same time builds you up to be strong, beautiful, smart, empowered. The harder you fall, the higher you climb.
5) Treasure life. My coworkers son passed away recently. He was my age. Does it put my life into perspective? Absolutely. I am so, incredibly lucky.
6) Take responsibility for your own feelings. Do not blame others. Own it. Live it. Experience it. How you feel should never be dictated by anyone else. And if you find yourself being blamed for how someone else is feeling, just know that it’s not your fault. You are not the sole reason for why someone is unhappy, or angry, or frustrated, even if they tell you that you are.
7) Do not underestimate the power of friends and family. They will love you the most, at times when you find yourself to be so unlovable.
8) People are going to let you down. And that’s okay. You can choose to feel how you want about it. You cannot control the actions of others, but you can control how you feel, how you act, and what you do.
9) You can’t fix everything. You can’t make everything work. You can’t make anyone happy if they’re not even happy with themselves.
10) Finally, I am beautiful. I am smart, talented, caring, patient, kind, and thoughtful. I am loving, affectionate, generous, empathetic, and understanding. I am so full of love and laughter, with a beautiful soul that is so full of warmth and happiness. I make my friends and my family happy. I am an amazing person. I am also a slob, lazy, forgetful, and late to everything. I am terrible at planning things, can’t keep track of my finances for the life of me, and live my life with no sense of urgency. I’m sensitive, hate criticism, and am extremely emotional. But you know what? There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Nothing at all. And no one will ever make me feel that there is something wrong with being who I am, ever again.
After a few 12 hour shifts, she might need a little space. She will have days when she needs a shoulder to cry on, or a kind ear to listen. It is a very stressful and draining job. Sometimes it takes a lot out of us, doesn’t leave much of us left for those we love. Be there for us, because for most of us, it also makes us a better person.
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